For once I feel as if I don’t need something around and that something is anger.
I’m fed up with it and want it out of my life. I’ve spent years arguing with my parents and squaring up to them.
During or after the argument I usually smash the crap out of something either by throwing it or going off like a bomb and destroying anything that gets in my way or looks breakable.
I’ve flipped out in school and hurt others and myself. I’ve thrown a stool at a teacher before and almost broke their arm. I punched up a boy so hard he was crying while he was knocked out and I broke my hand on his skull.
I tore apart a one-in-six original print worth £6000. That was a wedding present belonging to my parents. So I’ve decided to try and sort myself out once and for all. I tried before but the councillor just sat there nodding his head.
Now a proper anger-management councillor seems to be helping. I still get wound up and lose it, even the weather can affect my mood, but I’m a lot better than before.
The councillor has been very helpful and even made appointments with some of the people I have problems with.
If you’re a teenager and think it’s a mean age to live through here’s a piece of advice: take a look at your situation, think it through and seek some help.
There are lots of places with qualified people that can listen and talk to you. Take it easy, relax and reflect upon yourself.
The NHS provide tips for how to control your anger.
Try to let go of any unhelpful ways of thinking
Try to avoid using phrases that include:
• always (for example, “You always do that.”)
• never (“You never listen to me.”)
• should or shouldn’t (“You should do what I want,” or “You shouldn’t be on the roads.”)
• must or mustn’t (“I must be on time,” or “I mustn’t be late.”)
• not fair
Recognise your anger signs
• Breathe slowly
• Exercise can help with anger
• Talk about how you feel
• Let go of angry thoughts
Get help with anger. If you feel you need help dealing with your anger, see your GP. There might be local anger management courses or counselling that could help you.