Journey from darkness to light: self-discovery

February 22, 2024

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Jack Stylianou overcomes challenges to find love and bliss

Life is a complex journey, filled with both beauty and darkness. Over the past six years, I’ve experienced profound challenges that were difficult to discuss. I often felt empty and isolated. I’ve faced bullying due to my weight. Initially, I couldn’t fathom the cruelty people displayed, and it shattered my self-esteem.

Change was inevitable, but it didn’t happen overnight. At the age of 12, I was physically attacked, leaving me feeling worthless and weak. I longed to become strong, to conquer my pain, and the path to that led through transforming my body and mind.

I sought solace in rugby and weightlifting, dramatically altering my appearance within four months. Two years passed, during which I achieved many personal victories and the bullies no longer dared to harass me. I felt like Atlas, bearing my world with unyielding strength.

Exercise became my refuge, allowing me to block out worries and anxiety, and channel my sadness into motivation to become my true self. However, life took an unexpected turn when my secondary school denied me entry into the sixth form, despite having the grades, due to my tendency to question everything.

Every day became a cycle of numbness, as I relied on Xanax, Valium, and even Ecstasy to cope with my inner demons

Life continued to unfold, and I met a girl who shared my interest in art, but her friends inexplicably despised me. I maintained a facade of indifference, but deep down, their words ate away at me. My world began to crumble when the girl broke up with me, influenced by her friends’ disparaging comments.

At 16, I felt lost, my exercise regimen failing to mend my fractured spirit. My coping mechanism shifted to drugs, numbing both my body and my thoughts. Every day became a cycle of numbness, as I relied on Xanax, Valium, and even Ecstasy to cope with my inner demons. While I maintained a healthy lifestyle on the surface, the constant drug use pushed me into depression. It was a dangerous path, culminating in a near-fatal incident in February 2020, when my heart stopped.

This wake-up call made me realise the futility of using drugs to solve my problems. The thought of leaving this world didn’t concern me as much as the pain it would inflict on my family. I had been selfish.

The onset of the COVID-19 pandemic brought isolation, providing a much-needed opportunity for self-reflection and rediscovery. I overhauled my approach to life, focusing on lightweight, controlled exercises, healthy eating, and the unity of mind, body, and spirit. I embarked on a journey of self-discovery, realising that the destination was less important than the path itself.

My gratitude extends to my family, whose tough love highlighted their genuine concern. I also appreciate the friends I made along the way, as their perspectives clarified my troubles. Relationships, even if they ended, taught me valuable lessons about toughening my spirit in a world filled with darkness.

Losing a love didn’t deter me from my path, and my internal struggles fuelled my dedication to self-improvement. I emerged stronger, with a sharpened focus on knowledge and wisdom.

I offer advice based on my own journey and experience. Write down what you want to do in life. Manifest the life you want for you and go into depth; like your dream job, the house, the car, how you’ll be as a person, what you do on the weekend. It could be climbing mountains, running for charity. Write down your manifestation, keep it a secret and perform the act in silence.

Change your mindset. We all went to school having been told what to do in life, and what needed to be taught.

It’s time for you to make your life full of love and bliss by being you. Don’t like the system? Pick your own path. If you love drawing then do it. Don’t let them tell you it won’t make money or whatever they say. Stay true to who you are, and your life will feel so good.

In conclusion, life is a canvas we paint with our choices. It can be tough, lonely, and painful, but it’s up to us to find the strength to endure.

I’ve made mistakes, but I’ve also pulled myself out of the abyss. Change is an integral part of life, and embracing it is vital. Despite the world’s imperfections, the key is to be fair to oneself.

Life’s challenges make us stronger, wiser, and more positive. Love yourself, persevere, and remember that the message of hope resides within you. One love.

Jack Stylianou is a computer science graduate interested in writing poetry and seeking knowledge on spirituality. “Thank you Exposure for letting the message be brought to light."

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