Stepping into the light: overcoming bullying
June 13, 2025
Jacob with photo by Paweł L at Pexels
Jacob Kibrab discovers the courage to change and the power of respect
Recently research by the Department of Education shows a shocking 40% of young people in year 10 were bullied in the last 12 months.
Experiencing bullying throughout secondary school led me to withdraw and isolate myself as a coping mechanism to avoid the repeated harassment. I still hung out with friends, but my world became much smaller, and I developed social anxiety.
I found it difficult to reach out and take the first step, to seek help. Having an older brother was a great support. I could be myself and relax at home, no matter what was going on at school.
When I started at Barnet and Southgate College, the atmosphere was very different. The encouragement from both tutors and classmates to express my creativity started to have a positive impact on me. I not only began to improve but also developed a deeper understanding and admiration for others’ perspectives and experiences.
Since the beginning of this year I’ve felt better about myself, more confident. Previously I have been stuck in the past and not able to trust or interact with people too well. But this year I’ve taken chances and become more confident talking to people.
Facing bullying taught me the power of supporting and respecting each other
I feel more comfortable because I understand now that I’m not alone. Everyone’s going through something. That’s life. We must build the strength and resources to get through difficult times.
Many people struggle with change. It means letting go of old habits that once kept you safe and adapting to a new normal, which can be tough. Stepping out of your comfort zone is difficult and demands motivation. Staying in the familiar feels safe, and the idea of change can bring fear and anxiety about the future.
My mate Jason says he’s seen the difference in me. He told me, “You used to be more withdrawn and, on your own last year, but I’ve noticed you’ve really come out of your shell and grown in confidence.”
I know from experience that making the first move toward changing your perspective and actions is the hardest. It takes a lot of courage, but once you make that initial shift, it gets easier. Through facing bullying, I’ve figured out how much difference it makes to support and respect each other, as it’s key to overcoming challenges and developing strength.
Guys still struggle to open up, fearing they’ll appear fragile
Growing up in the digital age, my generation is keenly aware of past mistakes and the inherent stigma surrounding mental health. We’re determined to break this cycle. Despite greater openness around discussing mental health, especially on social media, guys still find it challenging to open up due to fears of appearing fragile.
A series that has got me thinking right now, and I just can’t stop watching, is the anime series, Attack on Titan. The emotional depth of the characters, especially Armin, and his experiences with bullying, really resonated with me. It reminded me of the importance of supporting and respecting each other, as Armin’s friends step in to help him when he’s being targeted. The themes of friendship, resilience, and standing up for others resonate with the values I’ve gained from my own experiences with bullying.
If you’re looking for support with bullying, these organisations can help. Take the first step:
